What Makes People Popular?

 

In order to be popular, do you have to be the most outstanding leader, the most active person in your office or social and communities?

I was asked by someone recently on the question of 'POPULARITY.'

Do you know that there is a great demand for books that claim to reveal the secrets of popularity? This indicates how anxious people are to be accepted by their friends or fellow members of a group. You know by experience that people are more attracted to you if you first show you like them. You have learned also that people like to feel important and that, consequently, they like to have you respect them for their achievements. If you make use of these two principles in your relationships with people, you are already aware of two of the most important "secrets of success" that are mentioned in most books on how to achieve popularity.

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What is important is it's mainly on the inside of you (i.e. your personality), if you are popular or not. You have to be popular from the inside out.

"Do you know that there is a great demand for books that claim to reveal the secrets of  popularity?"

How hard should a person work for his or her popularity?

Do you think it can be overdone? Do you suppose that a person could be so busy trying to be popular that he or she could wind up being unpopular? 

Do you suppose he or she might be so busy joining clubs or going out for this or that they might forget there are other more important personally, that they may have to look into as priority?

Can a person be so anxious to be the best manager or the best-dressed person or the one who has the most activities or dates that he or she forgets the other things in life?

Are there times when a person should sacrifice a little popularity here and there for something else that is important?

Last, of all, do you think it is possible to be popular with everybody? How do you go about pleasing everybody? 

What is popularity?

"Well, it wasn't hard to make friends even if you didn't hang around among them all the time (i.e. if from time to time you keep to yourself, and no fear of being lonely or maybe due to your shyness). On the other hand, it wasn't hard to 'like people' when you give yourself the chance.

The main thing,  I think, is to like people and be ordinary, and to do things as best as you can, be based on your capacity and capability.  Just be yourself and consistent; being authentic. 

Mind Your Manners

Is your social etiquette up to date?  Check with Society Image Experts on the dos and don'ts of the new norm  (i.e. covid social compliance and etiquette) from business and personal interaction to entertaining.  

Remember to say thank you after someone extends a courtesy is perhaps the easiest of social graces. Manners still matter amidst the pandemic and still matter in the twenty-first century.  Not only do manners matter, but they matter greatly.  Why? Because we are in danger of losing our CIVILITY, not to mention our sense of self-respect, our consideration of the feelings of others, and our regard for all those seemingly small gestures (call them niceties, if you must) that ease our path through an increasingly complex new global landscape and world environment. 

Remember to say thank you after someone extends a courtesy is perhaps the easiest of social graces.

I asked a man of wisdom about CLOTHES

This is what he has to say.

If you can dress like the rest of the crowd, that's enough. You don't have to overdo it. The important thing is to keep neat and clean, not as much to be wearing the latest fashion. 

He said, "I know of a fellow who tried to be popular by buying the nice clothes he saw the others wearing."   "Manners make the man." Not clothes."

According to him, being genuine is one of the best ways of being popular. 

Do you think there are other things involved in POPULARITY besides all the above factors? What makes a real and likeable person?

Let's do an exercise (where we casually ask our male and female friends about the above questions).  The top eight items mentioned are: 

What LADIES said about MEN:

1. Friendliness

2. Good grooming

3. Sense of humour

4. A good figure

5. Appropriate clothes

6. Being a good sport

7. Being a good listener

8. Good manners

What MEN said about LADIES:

1. Good manners

2. Friendliness

3. Good grooming

4. Sense of humour

5. Wear appropriate clothes 

6. Being a good sport

7. Being a good conversationalist

8. Being comfortable with his male friends from time to time

Do you agree with the above points? It would interesting to have your thoughts or your peers think about the popularity question. You might conduct your own poll.

You can take a leaf out of some of the men women around to see how their popularity looks like. It all comes down to your choice and the way you feel about yourself in the first place. Confidence and Courage to embrace the way you are undeniably some of the most important things to remember when you want to be popular.

We help our clients project a winning image in all aspects, from developing and projecting the desired image to including social etiquette and self-presentation. 

Leave a comment below and share with us your broad experiences where you feel your shyness or things overdone are affecting your life, relationship, and career if any.   

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