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Why do people like looking in the mirror? Why do people like looking in a mirror? We mostly mirror unconsciously. One of the fastest ways to create a good first impression and improve rapport is to use the mirror image. People will think you're reading their minds.  Why use the mirror image? Why do people like looking in the mirror? Ever seen a yawn become contagious? If you smile at someone, don't they smile back? Doesn't it make you feel happier?  Sometimes, we don't have to say anything or too much, or crack our heads to use any chat lines. In the initial stage, it's a sincere SMILE that makes a difference. Once you've ' broken the ice ', words become the focus. Remember a good smile is an asset in building relationships as it helps to connect. Leaders and successful business people can make very effective use of this intangible skill in improving leadership and interpersonal relationship building.  Image Credit: By Alexandr Ivanov of Pixabay You smil

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power -Lao Tzu Are you involved in work and career that relationships suffer? Or perhaps you trade off too many career ambitions for love and relationships. Yet these two life's essential needs - to succeed and be nurtured - don't have to conflict. Whenever a woman comes into my office with an opening statement, "I don't know what I really want to do with my life." I shall begin by posing that simple question, "What do you love?" And the silence usually follows.  We understand everyone has a dream to achieve happiness or success, but may not know how to. Many of us have never given a thought about the passion in our lives, and are puzzled by the question.  One of my clients was making a comfortable salary as an executive secretary at a brokerage firm, but she had no interest in finance as a career, I felt she has the style, intelligen

Being popular isn't just part of egoistic; it's an absolute must if you want to get invited to the A-lister events, parties in town, and being invited to do business with. Knowing all the right dance moves or being well-dressed can help make you popular, but the key to being on the A-lister's special invite list is to inspire others with a wish to see you and do business with you.  If you want to win friends, make it a point to remember them. If you remember me, you pay me a subtle compliment; you indicate that I have made an impression on you. Remember my name and you add to my feeling of importance. - By Author Dale Carnegie in his book "How to win friends and influence people." With these 10 easy guidelines , being a VIP A-lister on a Special Invite to an inner circle event or business group is a breeze! Image Credit: Unsplash What makes you likeable?  So, What makes you the most engaging and interesting person in the room that everybody notices? Rule 1: LOOK G

Many people come to me about issues with their self-esteem and issues with their worth where they struggle with.   When in doubt of themselves, they come asking for their self-worth, for trusting in their intuition, for listening to themselves, and others listening to them. This is a common challenge that each of us and many people in this escalating conflicting social-economic conditions and environment faces.  Your Self Worth Is Your Net Worth. Image Credit: Freepik How to ' marry ' the 2 conflicting factors of  STYLE and WORTH? Any individual who is comfortable in his or her skin must be the single most confident and stylish person in the room. I think style is to do-your-own-thing. It's originality.  You don't need clothes to be stylish to be a brand.  When in doubt, get dressed. Not because you have to,  but because it is a powerful tool to tell a story about who you are as your overall image is the first impression that people see. Are you giving off that you are

Can you believe that an entire year is almost gone? Some of you believe in getting dressed up especially with the month ahead that boasts holiday parties, year-end social and office gatherings, making the rounds, and celebrating in special outfit after special outfit. Save your energy for when it really matters. Take a personal day to plot your triumphant return to your new style. Creativity is Intelligence Having Fun - Albert Einstein 1. Flip the Holiday Dress Script and shop from your Wardrobe. How many times have you walked into a holiday affair only to see you are just another woman or man in some version of the "little black dress"? Or have you noticed that you were? Instead of jumping into your little black dress again, shop from your closet/wardrobe instead! This season is about classic vintage elegance with a tweak from your normal styling of yourself. Unlike more conservative events ( awards night, Birthdays, Pageantry event, Music or Movie awards, etc .), the year-e

Colours, like features, follow the changes of the emotions -Pablo Picasso How important is a colour to your brand? Christian Louboutin is known to the world for its red sole shoes. In fact, it has become so synonymous with the Christian Louboutin brand you only have to see a flash of red to know it is the much-coveted Louboutin. That's how powerful colour can be to a brand. Big brands understand the importance of colour, and branding using colours is needed for the brand to be identified.  Colours infuse every aspect of our lives, but little is known about how wearing different colours communicates directly with our feelings and emotions. Do you know that the colour of your necktie can make or break a business deal? Or beyond that, the shades of colour you paint your rooms can not only influence others' perception of you but as well it might impact your relationships? Colours affect us subconsciously and it is where artists, designers, advertising/branding agencies, and image c

  What has STYLE got to do with men? Why not, after all, men today are paying more attention to clothes, their grooming from their hair, skin, and nails. There are many well-dressed men today, though they may be still perplexed as to how much is sufficient when it comes to personal grooming due to the wide variety of brands and choices. Style is not a display of wealth, but an EXPRESSION of IMAGINATION -Anonymous Today, even in the midst of the pandemic with the majority of the company workforce still working from home (WFH), where business casual prevails, men's dressing and grooming continue to take a new twist. Ask a man who has the taste and dress with style and he will tell you that his fashion sense basically comes from his male icon either from movies or public figures. Or he may tell you that it basically comes from the sense of style from his dad, and the rest is an acquired skill that can be honed and improved with correct practice. Learning how to dress well is not

Changing your image and appearance can change your life. How does redefining your Personal Image do for your personal life and business? Image is power. It is not enough to be visible. To last is to succeed. Image has more value than reality. To last, the image must be built only on truths. Persona is the most effective weapon in your marketing war chest.    In reality, your Personal Image is more valuable than skills to any aspiring entrepreneur, salesperson, manager, or corporate officer.  Most failures are not due to a lack of talent, substance, or value. In our years of corporate background experiences, we have learned that many failing companies and without exception, they were quality offerings. They fail because they were invisible. In the world of marketing and branding, all ventures must present a targeted and focused persona to their prospective customers. Remember, it is far better to be a visible contender than an invisible champion. Is Image Everything? The culture o