Refinement Society

Why do people like looking in the mirror? Why do people like looking in a mirror? We mostly mirror unconsciously. One of the fastest ways to create a good first impression and improve rapport is to use the mirror image. People will think you're reading their minds.  Why use the mirror image? Why do people like looking in the mirror? Ever seen a yawn become contagious? If you smile at someone, don't they smile back? Doesn't it make you feel happier?  Sometimes, we don't have to say anything or too much, or crack our heads to use any chat lines. In the initial stage, it's a sincere SMILE that makes a difference. Once you've ' broken the ice ', words become the focus. Remember a good smile is an asset in building relationships as it helps to connect. Leaders and successful business people can make very effective use of this intangible skill in improving leadership and interpersonal relationship building.  Image Credit: By Alexandr Ivanov of Pixabay You smil...

How you handle conflict depends less on YOUR STYLE than on what each situation demands Anytime you bring two or more people together to solve a problem or make a decision - that is, to negotiate - you may well end up with conflict. Conflict is inevitable. Even with the most level-headed or good characteristics, people will engage in conflict. Is conflict bad? Not necessarily. But unmanaged conflict can be harmful to us as individuals and to our organisation. Handled right, however, it can be a good thing. The Chinese symbol for crisis is made up of two characters: danger and opportunity. A poorly handled conflict can be dangerous, relationships may suffer and productivity may decline. If left unmanaged, it can lead to health problems, divert energy, time, and resources from legitimate and important personal and organisational goals, and result in corporate sabotage and financial and emotional problems. But a skillfully handled conflict can be beneficial. It can function as a safety val...

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power -Lao Tzu Are you involved in work and career that relationships suffer? Or perhaps you trade off too many career ambitions for love and relationships. Yet these two life's essential needs - to succeed and be nurtured - don't have to conflict. Whenever a woman comes into my office with an opening statement, "I don't know what I really want to do with my life." I shall begin by posing that simple question, "What do you love?" And the silence usually follows.  We understand everyone has a dream to achieve happiness or success, but may not know how to. Many of us have never given a thought about the passion in our lives, and are puzzled by the question.  One of my clients was making a comfortable salary as an executive secretary at a brokerage firm, but she had no interest in finance as a career, I felt she has the style, intelligen...

  Relationship with Yourself sets the Tone for every other Relationship you have The right mindset and confidence will reflect in your face. Everyone can benefit from spending a little time on themselves. When deciding on a course of self-improvement, it is as well to get your facts straight and do some research into what you need. Image- i-stock photo  On Reflection: Self-discovery could change your lives! It is also about self-care and it reflects you to everyone you come into contact with. Learn to become your own self-critic but only when you know you can do something to improve yourself. It's a wise woman who can determine what she needs, carry it out, then forget about herself. Self-care is the background to your life, the backup that makes you feel better. and want to be better. The youth have the time to experiment, but they often end up they stick to it for too long. Nothing is more ageing than an an-out-of-date style of yourself. So as like your wardrobe, once in a w...

Being popular isn't just part of egoistic; it's an absolute must if you want to get invited to the A-lister events, parties in town, and being invited to do business with. Knowing all the right dance moves or being well-dressed can help make you popular, but the key to being on the A-lister's special invite list is to inspire others with a wish to see you and do business with you.  If you want to win friends, make it a point to remember them. If you remember me, you pay me a subtle compliment; you indicate that I have made an impression on you. Remember my name and you add to my feeling of importance. - By Author Dale Carnegie in his book "How to win friends and influence people." With these 10 easy guidelines , being a VIP A-lister on a Special Invite to an inner circle event or business group is a breeze! Image Credit: Unsplash What makes you likeable?  So, What makes you the most engaging and interesting person in the room that everybody notices? Rule 1: LOOK G...

Many people come to me about issues with their self-esteem and issues with their worth where they struggle with.   When in doubt of themselves, they come asking for their self-worth, for trusting in their intuition, for listening to themselves, and others listening to them. This is a common challenge that each of us and many people in this escalating conflicting social-economic conditions and environment faces.  Your Self Worth Is Your Net Worth. Image Credit: Freepik How to ' marry ' the 2 conflicting factors of  STYLE and WORTH? Any individual who is comfortable in his or her skin must be the single most confident and stylish person in the room. I think style is to do-your-own-thing. It's originality.  You don't need clothes to be stylish to be a brand.  When in doubt, get dressed. Not because you have to,  but because it is a powerful tool to tell a story about who you are as your overall image is the first impression that people see. Are you giving...

To welcome the year of the Tiger on the 1st of February, this Lunar New Year (Chinese New Year), a festive rich in tradition and the custom of family values, one way of creating a deeper connection with the culture is to lean on the local communities by donning on the auspicious colours especially red and gold . According to customs, the colours red and gold are symbolic of good health and fortune. Synonymous with the festive ceremonies and celebrations, red lanterns are stylishly hung at the ceilings to illuminate main hallways.  This is a year to be courageous, be really bold, and look your best! Beyond representing fortune and good luck, the bright red colour and fiery hue have long been the colour of revolution. After months and months of pandemic lockdown and isolation, many believe the year of the Tiger will bring many changes. It is time to be BOLD and BEAUTIFUL!  Beyond representing prosperity and good fortune, the scarlet red of your festive outfit also have the advan...

This is the week before Christmas and this is going to be the last week of the year, am taking this opportunity to look back at some of the highlights of 2021 as well as trying to capture the energy to take me into 2022. In reflection 2021, and Navigating forward 2022. Are you already setting goals on where you truly want to improve? The goal to always have in mind is to end the year better than you started. In reflection, 2021 is a year that has most of us in many highs and lows personally, business-wise, and socially. Limits to our freedoms, and though at times during lock-down, we can't help feeling completely remote; we're cut off from our usual environment. The escalating of the pandemic and uncertainties took us on a whirlwind of emotions. It is a year of ensuring mental and physical fitness. Isolation and loneliness have become urgent issues during the pandemic. We learned with speed to cope with various essential survival skills and many found solace in the isolation th...