Be A Class of Your Own to Elevate Net Worth

Many people come to me about issues with their self-esteem and issues with their worth where they struggle with.   When in doubt of themselves, they come asking for their self-worth, for trusting in their intuition, for listening to themselves, and others listening to them. This is a common challenge that each of us and many people in this escalating conflicting social-economic conditions and environment faces. 

Your Self Worth Is Your Net Worth.

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How to 'marry' the 2 conflicting factors of  STYLE and WORTH?

Any individual who is comfortable in his or her skin must be the single most confident and stylish person in the room. I think style is to do-your-own-thing. It's originality.  You don't need clothes to be stylish to be a brand.  When in doubt, get dressed. Not because you have to,  but because it is a powerful tool to tell a story about who you are as your overall image is the first impression that people see. Are you giving off that you are sophisticated, shy, bold, romantic, unreliable, unprofessional, untrustworthy, or old-fashioned? We'd like to believe we're above physical concerns. Many times, you may have heard of the saying. "You are what you wear."

Whether is business or social, as far as you need to attract to or vice versa, you need to be comfortable in your own skin. It is your self-esteem and confidence which affect everything you do. It reflects you to everyone you come into contact with or are connected with. Esteem is knowing your 'self-worth and value', which apply to both ourselves and other people. It is the amount of 'respect' we assess. We have esteem for influential top leaders, your advisor(s), your parents, and elders in the family. The most important place we need to apply esteem is within ourselves. We maintain our self-esteem in order to place ourselves as a person of value and worth, which is also our net worth. Self-esteem can affect every part of our lives. If your esteem of yourself is low, it will cause you to feel low-morale, unmotivated, have constant negative self-talk, and be pessimistic. People with low self-esteem tend to think that they are inferior to other people and think very lowly of themselves. It affects the way you look at things and situations. Elevating esteem for ourselves could well be the key to happiness, success, and good mental health. 

How to raise self-esteem?

The first step is to recognize, understand self, i.e. self-awareness (some people may need to work with a personal coach), or read books, and it might be a good idea to do a self-check. 

I like the quote from Oprah Winfrey,

I am a woman in progress. I'm just trying like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience and learn from it.

-Oprah Winfrey

Can you have great self-esteem, but no self-confidence?

At some point in our life, we may have all faced a period of low self-esteem due to various factors, beyond our control. Being confident is knowing your own self, your capabilities, level of experience, level of knowledge. It is about feeling comfortable and secure in oneself, like comfortable in your skin with your dressing/clothing style. 

The best way to predict the future is to create it yourself with confidence.

- The Image Factor Book

A person of a class wants to convey the right image to stakeholders and clients. The answer is to ELEVATE your NET WORTH.

1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD: When you tell someone something, mean it. If you don't like them, don't tell them that you do. If you don't want to go somewhere, don't tell that you'll be there, and then don't show up. If you don't want to go to the party, don't go to the party. Speak the truth. If someone is offending you, tell them. 

2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY: When someone is yelling at you, it usually doesn't have anything to do with you. It's something going on with that person. And that has helped me out a lot in my earlier years working in companies and servicing clients, but it's true of any business where you are dealing with any kinds of criticism from time to time. It is so much a part of my learning experiences and belief in self-worth that it has really helped me out of many situations.

3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS: Pretty obvious, right? How many times have you heard this story from couples or people you work with: 'I thought you would like this, 'You never ask me if I was going to like it. Or, 'I thought you were on board with this, 'You never asked me if I was. Just ask someone before you make an assumption.

4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST: If you always do your best, even if you fail or don't do well, you can always say, "Well, at least I did my best." You can't beat yourself up over something when you know you tried your best.

If you are in business, building the right image is critical to long-term market share, customer loyalty, and profitability. Building a successful brand image isn't an easy path but it's as important to undertake for new start-ups, small businesses as it is for larger ones. In life, you're only going to accept what you feel you're worthy of deserving, which is why I stress the exceptional difference between confidence and esteem. One thing is really talking about how you feel inside, which is your self-esteem. And the other thing is talking about your self-worth, express normally through your confidence and in your image with a class of your own through your own sense of style. 

How would you describe your style when you need to attract? Who, in your space has influenced your style? Have you ever been in a place of insecurity and lack? 

Are you seeking Refinement to elevate?

If you are someone who is seeking a life of fulfillment, reach your optimal potential, loving what you do, love to dress well, believing in Style over Trends, aspired trailblazer to 'look good, feel good (physically and mentally), ready to a journey of life-long continuous learning for self-growth, and appreciate being elevated to a 'Life Well Lived', focusing on what is necessary over essentials, this is the place for you. Or if you feel the need to rediscover your Colour and Style Personality, or your Personal Positioning, do reach out to Refinement Society to discuss your personal and life goal.

Leave a comment below and share with us your broad experiences where you feel that your ESTEEM and STYLE are affecting your life and success. Get connected with us directly and let us chat a bit. 

Stay Positive and Discover the diamond in you.