Refinement Society

People use to think that certain personalities are lucky and are born with attractive personalities, while others are not.  Growing up, in the early years of our lives,  many of us encounter that the popular person is pleasant and cheerful, is thoughtful and considerate, is a good sport, interesting to talk to, has a sense of humour, has good manners , acts natural, is neat in appearance, or even good looking. Shy people might wish that they were more extroverted and spontaneous in initiating a conversation. Some hot-tempered friends we know might wish they could keep their cool in emotionally charged situations.  Image Credit: Unsplash by James Kovin Charming people exude confidence and perseverance, are articulate, with charisma, and more often hungry for new knowledge. They are also great listeners, and have cumulative qualities of ' The Image Factor '.  What is it about certain personalities that continue to inspire and attract others? As one evolves in thei...

  Are you Being Too Nice? Are you always the nice guy or girl 24/7 public persona, take heed to the psychological stress lurking below that friendly surface. What does it mean to be nice? I recently had a client in my private coaching session tell me that she was tired of being nice to people, as she does not get the respect she deserves. Does kindness have a gender? Men and women are taught to think and talk about ethical issues in a different voice. In decades by default, men are perceived to be more of the natural leaders or abstract thinkers, and women socialized for social or domestic life and more about immediate connections. I think you will agree with me that society tends to give men and women different 'default settings' when it comes to ethical reasoning. We all have our own personal mountains to climb, and overcoming these life ventures allows us to progress to new ambitions. It goes without saying that scaling new heights can be a challenge, especially ...