Refinement Society

The words you say matter a great deal. Saying negative and unkind things will make a pretty girl or a handsome guy look unattractive   Image Source: Kristina Flour@ Unsplash I remember greeting a friend, "How do you do", and he replied, "Do What?"  The words you say matter a great deal. People never have a good impression of those who are always complaining or saying negative things (even if some of what you say is true). Have you noticed that popular guys and girls have a positive attitude and usually have good things to say- whether it is about their friend, the colleague, neighbour, or the party they attended last week? Being critical and judgemental makes a person unattractive. WORDS that build rapport with another person include those that show concern, respect, and courtesy towards them, for example;  - Appropriate greetings (Good morning! How are you? Nice weekend! Have a lovely day!) - Words that show concern (How have you been? Do take care of yourself.

Whether you are aware of it or not, your body movements clearly express your ATTITUDES and MOTIVES.  These simple body gestures, which most of us don't even notice, can COMMUNICATE key information that is invaluable in a variety of situations.  The Most Important thing in COMMUNICATION is hearing WHAT isn't said -Peter Drucker Whether in social, business, dating relationships, family meetings, gym, or at a grocery store people-watching always proves to be a fascinating experience. On many occasions, you probably found yourself wondering what the other person was thinking; the story behind a certain action, gesture, or facial expression.  When verbal and nonverbal messages conflict, it is often the case that the nonverbal gestures and expressions are more honest.  By a man's fingernails, by his jacket-sleeve, by his shoes, by his trouser's length, by his expression, bu his shirt-cuffs, by his movements, his smile- by each of these things a man is delivering a silen

Changing your image and appearance can change your life. How does redefining your Personal Image do for your personal life and business? Image is power. It is not enough to be visible. To last is to succeed. Image has more value than reality. To last, the image must be built only on truths. Persona is the most effective weapon in your marketing war chest.    In reality, your Personal Image is more valuable than skills to any aspiring entrepreneur, salesperson, manager, or corporate officer.  Most failures are not due to a lack of talent, substance, or value. In our years of corporate background experiences, we have learned that many failing companies and without exception, they were quality offerings. They fail because they were invisible. In the world of marketing and branding, all ventures must present a targeted and focused persona to their prospective customers. Remember, it is far better to be a visible contender than an invisible champion. Is Image Everything? The culture o

People use to think that certain personalities are lucky and are born with attractive personalities, while others are not.  Growing up, in the early years of our lives,  many of us encounter that the popular person is pleasant and cheerful, is thoughtful and considerate, is a good sport, interesting to talk to, has a sense of humour, has good manners , acts natural, is neat in appearance, or even good looking. Shy people might wish that they were more extroverted and spontaneous in initiating a conversation. Some hot-tempered friends we know might wish they could keep their cool in emotionally charged situations.  Image Credit: Unsplash by James Kovin Charming people exude confidence and perseverance, are articulate, with charisma, and more often hungry for new knowledge. They are also great listeners, and have cumulative qualities of ' The Image Factor '.  What is it about certain personalities that continue to inspire and attract others? As one evolves in their career, o

  Are you Being Too Nice? Are you always the nice guy or girl 24/7 public persona, take heed to the psychological stress lurking below that friendly surface. What does it mean to be nice? I recently had a client in my private coaching session tell me that she was tired of being nice to people, as she does not get the respect she deserves. Does kindness have a gender? Men and women are taught to think and talk about ethical issues in a different voice. In decades by default, men are perceived to be more of the natural leaders or abstract thinkers, and women socialized for social or domestic life and more about immediate connections. I think you will agree with me that society tends to give men and women different 'default settings' when it comes to ethical reasoning. We all have our own personal mountains to climb, and overcoming these life ventures allows us to progress to new ambitions. It goes without saying that scaling new heights can be a challenge, especially when t

"Etiquette must, if it is to be of more than trifling use, include ethics as well as manners." - Emily Post  1922 Best-Selling Book 'Etiquette' Image Credit: Unsplash   Since young, from the appropriate conversation, to how to handle conflict situations and others with restraint and civility, to how to behave at the dining table became the roadmap to my etiquette practices and interaction with people.  Growing up in a small town, I first learn about manners watching my parents behave, how they treat others, neighbours, friends, and people in the marketplace.  Since my growing up years, together with my other siblings, we were taught to take others into consideration or think about others before ourselves. We learned not to impose on others and we were taught not to make comments or give opinions unless invited to.  Have You ever met someone you thought was more elegant and poise than most people? Do you wonder what that person's secret is? You may be surprised b