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How you handle conflict depends less on YOUR STYLE than on what each situation demands Anytime you bring two or more people together to solve a problem or make a decision - that is, to negotiate - you may well end up with conflict. Conflict is inevitable. Even with the most level-headed or good characteristics, people will engage in conflict. Is conflict bad? Not necessarily. But unmanaged conflict can be harmful to us as individuals and to our organisation. Handled right, however, it can be a good thing. The Chinese symbol for crisis is made up of two characters: danger and opportunity. A poorly handled conflict can be dangerous, relationships may suffer and productivity may decline. If left unmanaged, it can lead to health problems, divert energy, time, and resources from legitimate and important personal and organisational goals, and result in corporate sabotage and financial and emotional problems. But a skillfully handled conflict can be beneficial. It can function as a safety val

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power -Lao Tzu Are you involved in work and career that relationships suffer? Or perhaps you trade off too many career ambitions for love and relationships. Yet these two life's essential needs - to succeed and be nurtured - don't have to conflict. Whenever a woman comes into my office with an opening statement, "I don't know what I really want to do with my life." I shall begin by posing that simple question, "What do you love?" And the silence usually follows.  We understand everyone has a dream to achieve happiness or success, but may not know how to. Many of us have never given a thought about the passion in our lives, and are puzzled by the question.  One of my clients was making a comfortable salary as an executive secretary at a brokerage firm, but she had no interest in finance as a career, I felt she has the style, intelligen

  Relationship with Yourself sets the Tone for every other Relationship you have The right mindset and confidence will reflect in your face. Everyone can benefit from spending a little time on themselves. When deciding on a course of self-improvement, it is as well to get your facts straight and do some research into what you need. Image- i-stock photo  On Reflection: Self-discovery could change your lives! It is also about self-care and it reflects you to everyone you come into contact with. Learn to become your own self-critic but only when you know you can do something to improve yourself. It's a wise woman who can determine what she needs, carry it out, then forget about herself. Self-care is the background to your life, the backup that makes you feel better. and want to be better. The youth have the time to experiment, but they often end up they stick to it for too long. Nothing is more ageing than an an-out-of-date style of yourself. So as like your wardrobe, once in a while,

  Unless Commitment is made, there are only Promises and Hopes; but no Plans - Peter F. Drucker- Image Credit: i-stock  The global pandemic has eliminated jobs and affected many businesses, in my view and I believe of others too, the solution is entrepreneurship- not in the old sense of dealmaking, but in the creation of new products or services. It is a great time especially for CEOs of small to medium-sized companies to foster the principles of real entrepreneurship within their organisations. Encouraging creativity among employees with minimum bureaucracy is an effective way of managing an entrepreneurial workforce. As the CEO of an entrepreneurial enterprise, you would be encouraged to have your staff formulate their own ways to achieve their goals based on their individual strengths and weaknesses. To motivate them, an entrepreneurial CEO set the ultimate example by being the MOST MOTIVATED individual at work every day.  The ability to recognise the entrepreneurial talent among yo

Every good conversation starts with good listening I believe crucial conversations shape and change the world. Meaningful and deep conversations can transform and change lives. Board meetings can be filled with conversations that change the world. It's the most basic way in which people relate and communicate with each other. Governance is only as good as its governors. You do govern by having conversations with each other. But how are you in the conversations? Is your voice generating a vibe that is creating value for your organization? How are you in the conversations? Is your voice generating a vibe that is creating VALUE for your organization? Getting to know someone can be an intimidating process. So how do we go about doing it right? Your body language, responses, your choice of words, tone, and questions in the initial stage of a conversation will form an impression that could be either positive or negative lasting impression. Your skills in getting to know people succes